September
2006
The Loneliness that Plagues Cabbages to Kings
One of the main issues that seems to torment so many of my clients seems to be the fact that they’re spending so much of their days- and most of their nights- alone. I often used to wonder why this happened to so many people, until I came to realise the dynamic involved that kept them so far apart from the rest of the world.
They have some flaw in their character that makes them think everyone should be perfect. That those whom they choose to share their precious time with should not only be charming, attractive and successful but- hopefully- be able to support them in their every hope, wish or need. The other day one woman told me that her future partner even needed to have a jet - never mind the fact that she was 82 years old, and on crutches .
These unrealistic expectations will only allow a microscopic few to get through- and this defeats the whole purpose of being awake on the planet. We are meant to engage with all sorts of characters, personas and schemers as we make our way through life- otherwise we exist in a vacuum and partake of a hollow world. Depression sets in and that magnetic note seems to attract all kinds of other negative experiences
In order to get out of this rut, one can only plunge back into the flow of life by joining a gym, a class or some other group of people whose objective revolves around support. One can only learn through interaction with others- from cabbages to kings- about ones self, and, later on, about the world around them. We are only here for a short time, and it is through our interactions with one another- especially those less fortunate- that we are able to ascend to the person that we are meant to be.
